I have seen bad, abusive and unhealthy polyamorous relationships. I have also seen beautiful and functional monogamous relationships that last a lifetime. I also have seen how toxic monogamy can twist our ideas of healthy relationships and how it dominates our cultures to the point that we expect everyone to follow the relationship escalator of marriage and kids, despite high divorce rates. What I’ve found is that the more I observe relationships of all kinds and remain open to their foundation ideas, the more complicated it appears to name the “best” way to have a relationship.Read more "The Truth about Polyamory (and Monogamy)"
Learn to say no without explaining yourself. We have been conditioned (especially women) to let people down easy. Our culture has taught us that just saying “I don’t want to” isn’t a good enough excuse for anything. Even saying you don’t want to go to a party or a friends house can be considered rude. […]Read more "Saying No: Stop Making Excuses"
No matter your romantic style, picking partners is hard. Everyone wants to find people who they relate to, they are attracted to and they get along with. When you are polyamorous, a little more complexity comes in to the equation. Within poly theory and literature, there are a lot of different opinions on how you should […]Read more "Picking Partners"
A large portion of my adult life has been spent tearing apart what society has told me about relationships. I had a realization that the white picket fence life wasn’t for me, so I tried my best to tear down those misconceptions about what love is supposed to be and build my own fence. Relationships […]Read more "Sex and Love: They don’t always have to go together"
You don’t need to be poly to take some pages from the poly book. The majority of polyamorous relationships spend a lot of time working on being better communicators. Not because poly people are better communicators to begin with, or even that they care about their relationships more. Poly people have to work on communication […]Read more "“But” Statements in Relationships"