The Truth about Polyamory (and Monogamy)

I have seen bad, abusive and unhealthy polyamorous relationships. I have also seen beautiful and functional monogamous relationships that last a lifetime. I also have seen how toxic monogamy can twist our ideas of healthy relationships and how it dominates our cultures to the point that we expect everyone to follow the relationship escalator of marriage and kids, despite high divorce rates. What I’ve found is that the more I observe relationships of all kinds and remain open to their foundation ideas, the more complicated it appears to name the “best” way to have a relationship.

Polyamory Without Condoms

Let me admit something right from the start. I love having sex without barriers. I, like many other people, enjoy the way it feels. I think it provides a closer connection to my partner and it’s just plain hot. I also acknowledge the amount of risk that goes into being barrier free or ‘fluid bonded’ with a […]

How I Tell People I’m Polyamorous

Polyamory is still a quiet community. We know that it will be a very very long time before we are recognized in mainstream media (if ever), and have our rights represented (poly marriages: probably not going to happen). So explaining your different lifestyle can be pretty hard, especially when you don’t know where to start. […]

A Year of Kinky Sprinkles

As 2015 wraps up, so does the first full year that Kinky Sprinkles has been an online resource. Since I have started writing about sex education, kink and polyamory I have had some great feedback and enthusiasm about my articles. I have also taught at awesome events like Kinky Kollege and attended six BDSM conferences. For […]

Saying No: Stop Making Excuses

Learn to say no without explaining yourself. We have been conditioned (especially women) to let people down easy. Our culture has taught us that just saying “I don’t want to” isn’t a good enough excuse for anything. Even saying you don’t want to go to a party or a friends house can be considered rude. […]

The Most Valuable Things I Have Learned From Polyamory

Polyamory has been about the amazing partners I have. The connections I am able to make, the openness I feel in my life and the happiness I get from growing as a person. Every year I look back and I’m amazed at how much I have grown. When someone asks me what polyamory is like, […]

3nder App Review: Not really for poly, kinky, open people

I was sitting at work, when I heard my coworker say ‘tinder for 3somes’ and I thought Uh oh is that really a thing? I then got excited when I googled and saw that the app website tagline was ‘meet kinky, poly, openminded people’. I promptly downloaded the app and began exploring. Partially because I’m an app […]

Picking Partners

No matter your romantic style, picking partners is hard. Everyone wants to find people who they relate to, they are attracted to and they get along with. When you are polyamorous, a little more complexity comes in to the equation. Within poly theory and literature, there are a lot of different opinions on how you should […]

Actually, it is Me: Being Wrong in Relationships

One of the biggest things I have learned from polyamory is that you cannot avoid your feelings. Poly has a way of digging up every issue in your relationships and making it sting like salt in a wound. Successful poly forces you to look long and hard at one of the hardest things to look […]

Mono/Poly Dating: Problematic Situations

Mono/Poly dating is defined as a mixed relationship between a monogamous person and a polyamorous person. The monogamous person is only interested in being with one person, and sometimes that one person just so happens to be someone who is polyamorous. I always say there is no ‘right’ way to do poly, but I do […]