Teeny Tiny Power Dynamics
How do you spice up the bedroom in a small power dynamic way – here are some quick ideas to get you started
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Kinky Crash Course: Wax Play
Hello and welcome to my new post series: Kinky crash course! I have been in the kink scene for a little while now, and I get a lot of ‘how to get started’ questions. I remember when I first got involved in the social scene and realized that there was SO much information to learn. […]
Read more "Kinky Crash Course: Wax Play"What a Broken Nose Taught Me About BDSM, Negotiation and Depression
I have written, and re-written this post about a dozen times. I love to share my knowledge of BDSM with others, to better the community and to better myself. When it comes to talking about my own mistakes and issues, the words don’t quite flow the way I want them to. I even considered never […]
Read more "What a Broken Nose Taught Me About BDSM, Negotiation and Depression"Lazy Negotiations: When Communications Break Down and People Get Hurt
Blanket Consent is negotiated consent that allows two people to perform certain acts without negotiating in the moment. Blanket consent can apply to a specific action (being choked) or to a wide variety of actions (a D/s relationship). Safewords, requests and communication should still be acknowledged and respected even if blanket consent has been negotiated.
Read more "Lazy Negotiations: When Communications Break Down and People Get Hurt"A Journey In Being Broken: When Injury Won’t Let You Play
I have had to step back from rope bottoming several times over the past few years. I have always been fairly open about talking to people about what is going wrong, especially with people I play with. The journey has been a physical and emotional roller coaster, and this post is going to be a […]
Read more "A Journey In Being Broken: When Injury Won’t Let You Play"Dear Rope Tops
I love rope. I would consider rope bondage one of my number one kinks. I love it because it is the closest you can get to dancing in bondage. To me, a good rope scene is a conversation. Rope itself is just a tool that lends very well to this conversation. A piece of rope […]
Read more "Dear Rope Tops"The Other OTHER Safe Sex Conversation: BDSM and Scenes
BDSM has a lot of terminology that goes along with it. I remember being very overwhelmed when I first started poking around on websites like Fetlife. I had no idea what it all meant and I wanted to be up to date with the lingo fast. A few years later, I find myself using all […]
Read more "The Other OTHER Safe Sex Conversation: BDSM and Scenes"You’re The Boss: Submissives Should be in Control
The role of a submissive is often misunderstood, especially by people new to kink or those who have made assumptions about kink from popular culture. From the outside, a submissive looks like a person who just lets things happen to them, and wants to be hurt/touched/paid attention to. Good risk-aware kink goes way beyond this. […]
Read more "You’re The Boss: Submissives Should be in Control"Bottoming for Rope and Learning Your Limits
Rope bondage can be dangerous. Any rope top who tells you different you should avoid playing with. We put ourselves in positions where we cannot move, our bodies are twisted, and sometimes even hung up in the air. You hear about nerve injuries and countless other injuries in rope (maybe one of the most dangerous […]
Read more "Bottoming for Rope and Learning Your Limits"Coming Soon
Hi, I’m Fox. And I want to be yet another sex educator. Why? Because I think there is room in this world for more sex educators. In the US, our culture is still very fixed in to some unhealthy sexual patterns, including rape culture. A deep misunderstanding revolves around alternative lifestyles. People are afraid of […]
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