I Fall In Love In Threes

I hit the buzzer and shift from foot to foot at the front door. I glance at my phone and realise I’m early as usual. The spring day is so refreshing compared to the dark of the winter so I turn around and cross the street, to stroll the neighborhood while I wait. He comes […]

The Numbers of Emotional Sadomasochism

Over seven days of recovery. One week of negotiation. Three years of an established play relationship. Around seventeen needles. One video of a partner I haven’t seen in three months insulting my life’s work. Thirty or more people watching me sob into my own lap, tied to a chair with blood trickling down my arms and […]

Rome BDSM Conference and Time as a Poly Constraint

My blog posts have been a little sparse the month of February and I apologise for that. I typically stay on a pretty consistent schedule. The awesome news is that I will be bottoming/co teaching at Rome BDSM Conference with my partner XCBDSM in just a few days. So if you are in Europe you should come down […]

Polyamory Without Condoms

Let me admit something right from the start. I love having sex without barriers. I, like many other people, enjoy the way it feels. I think it provides a closer connection to my partner and it’s just plain hot. I also acknowledge the amount of risk that goes into being barrier free or ‘fluid bonded’ with a […]

Herpes, Oral Sex and Safe Sex

There is No Such Thing As Safe Sex Yep, you heard me. There is no such thing as safe sex. There is only Safer sex. Safe implies that if you are careful, you can protect yourself from pretty much anything. The only way to have completely safe sex is to abstain from sex. When we choose to […]

How I Tell People I’m Polyamorous

Polyamory is still a quiet community. We know that it will be a very very long time before we are recognized in mainstream media (if ever), and have our rights represented (poly marriages: probably not going to happen). So explaining your different lifestyle can be pretty hard, especially when you don’t know where to start. […]

A Year of Kinky Sprinkles

As 2015 wraps up, so does the first full year that Kinky Sprinkles has been an online resource. Since I have started writing about sex education, kink and polyamory I have had some great feedback and enthusiasm about my articles. I have also taught at awesome events like Kinky Kollege and attended six BDSM conferences. For […]

HER App Review: Hell Yes For Women

Being a queer woman is hard. Depending on where you live, it can be difficult to meet other available women. Gay men have Grindr, straight people have Tinder (plus a huge number of other dating apps, plus you know, the advantage of being heterosexual). Women have always had a little bit less in the realm […]

Review: The Game Changer: A Memoir of Disruptive Love

More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory was one of the foundation books that I have built a lot of my beliefs on. It has become one of the reference books in my library, and one of my most recommended reads for friends and partners. When I discovered Franklin Veaux, one of the writers of […]

Kinky Kollege and The Leather Archives

I was very fortunate to make a last minute visit to Chicago this past weekend to co-teach at Kinky Kollege and to visit The Leather Archives. Kinky Kollege puts me at six different kink conventions this year (holy shit that is a lot of traveling). And also marks the start of me teaching and demo […]