Two years ago I wrote an article called safewords are not enough. I stood by my feelings about why safewords shouldn’t be the end all be all of BDSM. Two years later I still feel the same. Many play partners and sessions later, I still don’t use safewords.Read more "Why I Still Don’t Use Safewords"
What is like to have a threesome when everything goes right?Read more "What is it Really Like to Have a Threesome?"
a solo poly person has their core self that consumes the majority of their resources and have satellite relationships around that core.Read more "Setting Your Boundaries as a Solo Poly Practicer"
Nudity doesn’t come naturally for everyone. Depending on the culture you were raised in, throwing off all your clothes and getting comfy in your B-Day suit around other people might be the stuff of nightmares. American culture teaches us to feel shameful about our bodies. In the locker room we all turn away and quickly […]Read more "Trying On Your Birthday Suit: 5 Tips for Getting Used to Public Nudity"
I hit the buzzer and shift from foot to foot at the front door. I glance at my phone and realise I’m early as usual. The spring day is so refreshing compared to the dark of the winter so I turn around and cross the street, to stroll the neighborhood while I wait. He comes […]Read more "I Fall In Love In Threes"
Over seven days of recovery. One week of negotiation. Three years of an established play relationship. Around seventeen needles. One video of a partner I haven’t seen in three months insulting my life’s work. Thirty or more people watching me sob into my own lap, tied to a chair with blood trickling down my arms and […]Read more "The Numbers of Emotional Sadomasochism"
My blog posts have been a little sparse the month of February and I apologise for that. I typically stay on a pretty consistent schedule. The awesome news is that I will be bottoming/co teaching at Rome BDSM Conference with my partner XCBDSM in just a few days. So if you are in Europe you should come down […]Read more "Rome BDSM Conference and Time as a Poly Constraint"