I have seen bad, abusive and unhealthy polyamorous relationships. I have also seen beautiful and functional monogamous relationships that last a lifetime. I also have seen how toxic monogamy can twist our ideas of healthy relationships and how it dominates our cultures to the point that we expect everyone to follow the relationship escalator of marriage and kids, despite high divorce rates. What I’ve found is that the more I observe relationships of all kinds and remain open to their foundation ideas, the more complicated it appears to name the “best” way to have a relationship.Read more "The Truth about Polyamory (and Monogamy)"
Why I said no to playing with you at a kink party, and why it is totally OK for me to say no.Read more "The Top 5 Reasons I Said No to Playing with You"
An honest and funny review of the Satisfyer line of vibrators from a kink blogger.Read more "Review: Satisfyer Vibrators"
I’m a bdsm minimalist. How do you apply the principles of minimalism to BDSMRead more "I’m a BDSM Minimalist"
What to expect your first time attending a BDSM club or a kink event. Tips and explanations of your first peek into the BDSM world.Read more "Your First Kink Event: A Crash Course"
Two years ago I wrote an article called safewords are not enough. I stood by my feelings about why safewords shouldn’t be the end all be all of BDSM. Two years later I still feel the same. Many play partners and sessions later, I still don’t use safewords.Read more "Why I Still Don’t Use Safewords"
What is like to have a threesome when everything goes right?Read more "What is it Really Like to Have a Threesome?"