I have seen bad, abusive and unhealthy polyamorous relationships. I have also seen beautiful and functional monogamous relationships that last a lifetime. I also have seen how toxic monogamy can twist our ideas of healthy relationships and how it dominates our cultures to the point that we expect everyone to follow the relationship escalator of marriage and kids, despite high divorce rates. What I’ve found is that the more I observe relationships of all kinds and remain open to their foundation ideas, the more complicated it appears to name the “best” way to have a relationship.Read more "The Truth about Polyamory (and Monogamy)"
Why I said no to playing with you at a kink party, and why it is totally OK for me to say no.Read more "The Top 5 Reasons I Said No to Playing with You"
An honest and funny review of the Satisfyer line of vibrators from a kink blogger.Read more "Review: Satisfyer Vibrators"
I’m a bdsm minimalist. How do you apply the principles of minimalism to BDSMRead more "I’m a BDSM Minimalist"
What to expect your first time attending a BDSM club or a kink event. Tips and explanations of your first peek into the BDSM world.Read more "Your First Kink Event: A Crash Course"
Two years ago I wrote an article called safewords are not enough. I stood by my feelings about why safewords shouldn’t be the end all be all of BDSM. Two years later I still feel the same. Many play partners and sessions later, I still don’t use safewords.Read more "Why I Still Don’t Use Safewords"
What is like to have a threesome when everything goes right?Read more "What is it Really Like to Have a Threesome?"
a solo poly person has their core self that consumes the majority of their resources and have satellite relationships around that core.Read more "Setting Your Boundaries as a Solo Poly Practicer"
Nudity doesn’t come naturally for everyone. Depending on the culture you were raised in, throwing off all your clothes and getting comfy in your B-Day suit around other people might be the stuff of nightmares. American culture teaches us to feel shameful about our bodies. In the locker room we all turn away and quickly […]Read more "Trying On Your Birthday Suit: 5 Tips for Getting Used to Public Nudity"
I hit the buzzer and shift from foot to foot at the front door. I glance at my phone and realise I’m early as usual. The spring day is so refreshing compared to the dark of the winter so I turn around and cross the street, to stroll the neighborhood while I wait. He comes […]Read more "I Fall In Love In Threes"