Polyamory has been about the amazing partners I have. The connections I am able to make, the openness I feel in my life and the happiness I get from growing as a person. Every year I look back and I’m amazed at how much I have grown. When someone asks me what polyamory is like, […]Read more "The Most Valuable Things I Have Learned From Polyamory"
I was sitting at work, when I heard my coworker say ‘tinder for 3somes’ and I thought Uh oh is that really a thing? I then got excited when I googled and saw that the app website tagline was ‘meet kinky, poly, openminded people’. I promptly downloaded the app and began exploring. Partially because I’m an app […]Read more "3nder App Review: Not really for poly, kinky, open people"
No matter your romantic style, picking partners is hard. Everyone wants to find people who they relate to, they are attracted to and they get along with. When you are polyamorous, a little more complexity comes in to the equation. Within poly theory and literature, there are a lot of different opinions on how you should […]Read more "Picking Partners"
One of the biggest things I have learned from polyamory is that you cannot avoid your feelings. Poly has a way of digging up every issue in your relationships and making it sting like salt in a wound. Successful poly forces you to look long and hard at one of the hardest things to look […]Read more "Actually, it is Me: Being Wrong in Relationships"
Mono/Poly dating is defined as a mixed relationship between a monogamous person and a polyamorous person. The monogamous person is only interested in being with one person, and sometimes that one person just so happens to be someone who is polyamorous. I always say there is no ‘right’ way to do poly, but I do […]Read more "Mono/Poly Dating: Problematic Situations"
A large portion of my adult life has been spent tearing apart what society has told me about relationships. I had a realization that the white picket fence life wasn’t for me, so I tried my best to tear down those misconceptions about what love is supposed to be and build my own fence. Relationships […]Read more "Sex and Love: They don’t always have to go together"
You don’t need to be poly to take some pages from the poly book. The majority of polyamorous relationships spend a lot of time working on being better communicators. Not because poly people are better communicators to begin with, or even that they care about their relationships more. Poly people have to work on communication […]Read more "“But” Statements in Relationships"
I tend to be fiercely private about my life in most settings. I have always been a bit unconventional in my personal life, and it was hard to be open about it. Just like it was hard to come out to my parents as queer, it was almost just as hard to tell them that […]Read more "Being Open About Poly"