The 2018 Last Minute Kinky Gift Guide. Gifts for polyamory, kinky people that can be ordered last minute for the holidays. Books, online courses and moreRead more "The 2018 Last Minute Kinky Gift Guide"
The bottom line is these boxes give a true sampling of real kink at luxury quality, which isn’t something I’ve seen anywhere else in the worldRead more "Kink Gifts : Luxury Gift Boxes"
How do you spice up the bedroom in a small power dynamic way – here are some quick ideas to get you startedRead more "Teeny Tiny Power Dynamics"
Hello and welcome to my new post series: Kinky crash course! I have been in the kink scene for a little while now, and I get a lot of ‘how to get started’ questions. I remember when I first got involved in the social scene and realized that there was SO much information to learn. […]Read more "Kinky Crash Course: Wax Play"
New York City is an iconic vacation destination. We see it all the time in movies, and it is probably one of the most visited cities in the US. I went for the first time this summer, and despite not being much of a big-city lover, I found a few fun, sexy things to do while I was in town.Read more "A Sampling of Fun, Sexy Things to Do in NYC"
Why I said no to playing with you at a kink party, and why it is totally OK for me to say no.Read more "The Top 5 Reasons I Said No to Playing with You"
What to expect your first time attending a BDSM club or a kink event. Tips and explanations of your first peek into the BDSM world.Read more "Your First Kink Event: A Crash Course"
Two years ago I wrote an article called safewords are not enough. I stood by my feelings about why safewords shouldn’t be the end all be all of BDSM. Two years later I still feel the same. Many play partners and sessions later, I still don’t use safewords.Read more "Why I Still Don’t Use Safewords"
Nudity doesn’t come naturally for everyone. Depending on the culture you were raised in, throwing off all your clothes and getting comfy in your B-Day suit around other people might be the stuff of nightmares. American culture teaches us to feel shameful about our bodies. In the locker room we all turn away and quickly […]Read more "Trying On Your Birthday Suit: 5 Tips for Getting Used to Public Nudity"
Over seven days of recovery. One week of negotiation. Three years of an established play relationship. Around seventeen needles. One video of a partner I haven’t seen in three months insulting my life’s work. Thirty or more people watching me sob into my own lap, tied to a chair with blood trickling down my arms and […]Read more "The Numbers of Emotional Sadomasochism"