Over seven days of recovery. One week of negotiation. Three years of an established play relationship. Around seventeen needles. One video of a partner I haven’t seen in three months insulting my life’s work. Thirty or more people watching me sob into my own lap, tied to a chair with blood trickling down my arms and […]
Read more "The Numbers of Emotional Sadomasochism"As 2015 wraps up, so does the first full year that Kinky Sprinkles has been an online resource. Since I have started writing about sex education, kink and polyamory I have had some great feedback and enthusiasm about my articles. I have also taught at awesome events like Kinky Kollege and attended six BDSM conferences. For […]
Read more "A Year of Kinky Sprinkles"I was very fortunate to make a last minute visit to Chicago this past weekend to co-teach at Kinky Kollege and to visit The Leather Archives. Kinky Kollege puts me at six different kink conventions this year (holy shit that is a lot of traveling). And also marks the start of me teaching and demo […]
Read more "Kinky Kollege and The Leather Archives"Nothing good comes from having something to prove when your tool to prove it is someone else’s body.
Read more "Safewords Are Not Enough"I have written, and re-written this post about a dozen times. I love to share my knowledge of BDSM with others, to better the community and to better myself. When it comes to talking about my own mistakes and issues, the words don’t quite flow the way I want them to. I even considered never […]
Read more "What a Broken Nose Taught Me About BDSM, Negotiation and Depression"Blanket Consent is negotiated consent that allows two people to perform certain acts without negotiating in the moment. Blanket consent can apply to a specific action (being choked) or to a wide variety of actions (a D/s relationship). Safewords, requests and communication should still be acknowledged and respected even if blanket consent has been negotiated.
Read more "Lazy Negotiations: When Communications Break Down and People Get Hurt"I have had to step back from rope bottoming several times over the past few years. I have always been fairly open about talking to people about what is going wrong, especially with people I play with. The journey has been a physical and emotional roller coaster, and this post is going to be a […]
Read more "A Journey In Being Broken: When Injury Won’t Let You Play"Sub Drop is an emotional state that submissives/bottoms can experience after a BDSM scene. Some of the symptoms include feeling down, having less energy, feeling more emotionally raw. The symptoms vary from person to person, as does the intensity of sub drop. Understanding how to deal with sub drop is part of practicing BDSM. Everyone finds […]
Read more "5 Tips for Sub Drop for Introvert Types"BDSM has a lot of terminology that goes along with it. I remember being very overwhelmed when I first started poking around on websites like Fetlife. I had no idea what it all meant and I wanted to be up to date with the lingo fast. A few years later, I find myself using all […]
Read more "The Other OTHER Safe Sex Conversation: BDSM and Scenes"The role of a submissive is often misunderstood, especially by people new to kink or those who have made assumptions about kink from popular culture. From the outside, a submissive looks like a person who just lets things happen to them, and wants to be hurt/touched/paid attention to. Good risk-aware kink goes way beyond this. […]
Read more "You’re The Boss: Submissives Should be in Control"