My blog posts have been a little sparse the month of February and I apologise for that. I typically stay on a pretty consistent schedule. The awesome news is that I will be bottoming/co teaching at Rome BDSM Conference with my partner XCBDSM in just a few days. So if you are in Europe you should come down and see our classes!

I wanted to get a bit personal and talk about polyamory and my journey personally. I have been polyamorous at heart for my entire life, and in practice for a solid three years now (and off and on before that). I have grown so much and made so many mistakes. The past few months I have gone from living with a partner and having several interlaced triad situations that consumed a huge amount of my time. Now, I am living in a brand new city and my love life has changed very much. I still am in contact and in love with my partners back in the states. I am currently only seeing one partner regularly and dating ‘my studies’ since I am spending so much time on professional development right now.

Time As a Poly Constraint

We can talk all day about how love can be limitless, and that love isn’t a starvation economy. Time is though. You only have so many hours in the day, and at some point you will find the the balance between exploring your relationships and all the other stuff that goes on in life. Sometimes career and school will take the ‘primary’ or ‘anchor’ relationship role in your life, and I think that is absolutely ok.

What should you do when your personal development makes it hard to stay in contact with partners? The answer is simple. Just make sure you are being very open and honest about where you are at, which can be hard sometimes when you are so deeply involved in your work. All of this is just food for thought. A good relationship benefits from check ins, and so do you. When was the last time you took a good look at yourself and evaluated where you are?