Hello and welcome to my new post series: Kinky crash course! I have been in the kink scene for a little while now, and I get a lot of ‘how to get started’ questions. I remember when I first got involved in the social scene and realized that there was SO much information to learn. […]Read more "Kinky Crash Course: Wax Play"
How do you define the success of a relationship? Is it how long it lasts? Is it that the people never break up, that you live together until one of you grows old and dies? It it endless love and a happily ever after? If you start to think like that, you begin to realize pretty quickly that the real world almost never works like that. In non-monogamous relationships (and in my opinion all relationships) you should be defining what success of the relationship means to you, because there isn’t one universal rule.Read more "What Defines a Successful Relationship?"
New York City is an iconic vacation destination. We see it all the time in movies, and it is probably one of the most visited cities in the US. I went for the first time this summer, and despite not being much of a big-city lover, I found a few fun, sexy things to do while I was in town.Read more "A Sampling of Fun, Sexy Things to Do in NYC"
I have seen bad, abusive and unhealthy polyamorous relationships. I have also seen beautiful and functional monogamous relationships that last a lifetime. I also have seen how toxic monogamy can twist our ideas of healthy relationships and how it dominates our cultures to the point that we expect everyone to follow the relationship escalator of marriage and kids, despite high divorce rates. What I’ve found is that the more I observe relationships of all kinds and remain open to their foundation ideas, the more complicated it appears to name the “best” way to have a relationship.Read more "The Truth about Polyamory (and Monogamy)"
Why I said no to playing with you at a kink party, and why it is totally OK for me to say no.Read more "The Top 5 Reasons I Said No to Playing with You"
An honest and funny review of the Satisfyer line of vibrators from a kink blogger.Read more "Review: Satisfyer Vibrators"
I’m a bdsm minimalist. How do you apply the principles of minimalism to BDSMRead more "I’m a BDSM Minimalist"